The first date can be nerve-wracking for both parties, but rarely do we talk as much about what men should expect when they walk into that bar/coffeeshop/edm festival for the first time. Here’s a few things you should keep in mind when you finally meet in person.
While dating apps are great for initial chatter, don’t spend a lot of time chatting without meeting up. You don’t really know who you’re talking to until you’ve met in person, and to be frank, women can get bored quickly of text messages where you never put forth a meet-up/a date idea. Move with purpose.
A large amount of dating tips out there for women revolve around personal safety--and for good reason. With that in mind, even if you wouldn’t harm a fly, remember she’s going to be trying to tell if your someone she can let her guard down around. Don’t be surprised if things are a little rocky in the beginning--she needs to know you’re not some psychopath.
Asking about money a little too early? Interrogating you about your ex? Can’t stop talking about hers? Those are red flags you should pay attention to. Though they like to admit it less often, men are just as likely to ignore warning signs as women. If you get the feeling that something’s off with your date and what she wants, pay attention to it.
You’re testing the waters, so make sure you’re keeping the conversation light, breezy, and funny. It’s all too easy for a first date to go down like an interview, with each side firing off their assorted questions for the other person to answer. Focus on making things fun.
If you’re just not digging her that much? That doesn’t mean you stop being a gentlemen. If you’ve been getting drinks, take care of the check, and part. DON'T say you’ll call or get back in contact if you won’t. She’ll get the hint.
Want more first date advice? Then check out this article at men’s fitness for some more helpful tips.
Source: Men's Fitness